So my husband is going to be gone for a few days. This wouldn't bother me so much if I wasn't stuck at home all day. Don't get me wrong I miss him like crazy already and he hasn't even been gone a day! But I think it would be easier on me when he's gone like this if I had my license. Although that would mean I'd have to drive that massive thing in our garage! :o( And to be honest I don't think Benny wants me to be driving his truck. He's very picky about that dang thing! He just barely started going through the drive-thru, with the exception of NO EATING IN THE TRUCK! And I was starting to regret getting the truck. ha He asked me last night what I wanted for my birthday and I said "my license!". He said I'd have to find someone to take me to drivers-ed and to watch Khylie so that wasn't a good idea. Little does he know I already found someone to do both!!! lol So hopefully I'll have my license or at least taking drivers-ed by then.
While Benny's gone I should probably stay by myself and be an adult but of course I'm not! haha I don't mind it during the day but at night my mind just thinks of all the worst things that could happen, and I don't sleep! So my parents are coming to stay here with Khylie and me. :o) They are so awesome!! Call me a baby all you want I don't care, I'd much rather have my parents here than being out in the country all by myself and not know how to drive if something happened. And since they live all the way in Merkel its easier this way.
Monday, March 22, 2010
Sunday, March 7, 2010
Weekend Fun
This weekend has been one of the best, if I do say so myself. Saturday my nieces kicked some little kid butt at their soccer games. Elizabeth's team won 9-0 almost 10-0 but the referee made a stupid call. But whatever, they still won! ha Her team has gotten so much better since last season. They are all doing really well with passing and dribbling the ball across the field. And this one girl, Clarissa made like 5 goals in maybe 15 minutes!! Amanda finally listened to us and switched April from the team she was on last season. The coach never really let her play the positions she was good at or would only leave her in the game for 20 minutes. And April is REALLY good at soccer! So he was a loser, and was a little too touchy feely with the girls. But Aprils new team is the pink lightnings and her coach is pretty awesome. He knows exactly her greater moves and keeps her in the right positions. So she gets to play the whole game!! They wont their game 2-0. Joshua's age in soccer doesn't keep score since there's no refs. Its more of the coaches teaching them all about soccer. So the coaches are on the field the whole time showing the kids where to stand. Josh loves it! His coach is pretty cool too, he lets him kick the ball inside the field a lot. He's the littlest guy on the field so he hasn't really gotten a hold of the ball except for once and you better believe everyone was screaming "GO JOSH!!! TAKE THAT BALL". I can't wait until Khylie can play. Benny and I want to become coaches when she is old enough. I guess we need to do some research on soccer. lol
Well after their games they came to spend the night with us. Benny played soccer out in the backyard with them. It was nice to see them so happy. They don't really have a father figure around so it does them good to be around Benny. They also helped me make truffles and help Benny wash is truck. I woke up this morning at 9:15am and went and asked them if they wanted to go to church or sleep in, all three of them sat up and said CHURCH! :o) So we rushed to make it to church, got there about 10:20 so only 20 minutes late. lol I was so proud of them all three of them went to children church. I thought Josh would cry since his class was separate from the girls but he stayed in their class the entire service. And might I add it was an amazing service!! Pastor Chuck is so awesome and really knows how to preach the word of God where you can actually understand what he's talking about. After the service, on our way to get the kids from children church I told Benny we needed to get them bibles soon. The first thing the girls said when we got them out of class was "we need Holy Bibles!". It was so cute! So on the 15th we plan on getting them youth bibles and Josh & Khylie kid bibles. After church Benny and the kids went out and played some more soccer while I made sloppy joes. I was surprised that all of them ate them without any complaints. They're so picky its so hard to please every one of them! lol After lunch Benny took them to the store to get a brisket to make for dinner. I stayed to clean up and ended up crashing out afterward. Glad they let me take an hour power nap! I swear those kids are obsessed with soccer they played all day today. So after dinner we played the new zoo land game Khylie got for her birthday. They all had a blast!! I loved seeing them all get along. Khylie, Josh, April and Lizzy were all jumping up and down acting like the animals as the game calls for them to do at certain points. It was hilarious! I'm glad it was a game where everyone won, so they all got two pieces of candy. I put Khylie in the bath and my parents took the girls and Josh home. Khylie crashed out right after we put her to bed, she did not get up once! So starting this next week I'm going to try and keep her from taking naps to see if that helps her crash out like she did tonight. Since she didnt take a nap today.
Well after their games they came to spend the night with us. Benny played soccer out in the backyard with them. It was nice to see them so happy. They don't really have a father figure around so it does them good to be around Benny. They also helped me make truffles and help Benny wash is truck. I woke up this morning at 9:15am and went and asked them if they wanted to go to church or sleep in, all three of them sat up and said CHURCH! :o) So we rushed to make it to church, got there about 10:20 so only 20 minutes late. lol I was so proud of them all three of them went to children church. I thought Josh would cry since his class was separate from the girls but he stayed in their class the entire service. And might I add it was an amazing service!! Pastor Chuck is so awesome and really knows how to preach the word of God where you can actually understand what he's talking about. After the service, on our way to get the kids from children church I told Benny we needed to get them bibles soon. The first thing the girls said when we got them out of class was "we need Holy Bibles!". It was so cute! So on the 15th we plan on getting them youth bibles and Josh & Khylie kid bibles. After church Benny and the kids went out and played some more soccer while I made sloppy joes. I was surprised that all of them ate them without any complaints. They're so picky its so hard to please every one of them! lol After lunch Benny took them to the store to get a brisket to make for dinner. I stayed to clean up and ended up crashing out afterward. Glad they let me take an hour power nap! I swear those kids are obsessed with soccer they played all day today. So after dinner we played the new zoo land game Khylie got for her birthday. They all had a blast!! I loved seeing them all get along. Khylie, Josh, April and Lizzy were all jumping up and down acting like the animals as the game calls for them to do at certain points. It was hilarious! I'm glad it was a game where everyone won, so they all got two pieces of candy. I put Khylie in the bath and my parents took the girls and Josh home. Khylie crashed out right after we put her to bed, she did not get up once! So starting this next week I'm going to try and keep her from taking naps to see if that helps her crash out like she did tonight. Since she didnt take a nap today.
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
A broken family
So every day I get to spend every waken minute with my daughter. She is perfect in my eyes! My family loves her to pieces, they spoil her rotten! I just don't know why my in-laws can't do the same? I don't know how they can go MONTHS without calling or seeing her. I don't see how they can go and spend all their time as a family and leave my precious three year old out of it all. I'm more enraged, Benny on the other hand is heartbroken. That is his family and they are NEVER around. Let me vent a little on everything that has led up to the moment where I just want to cut them completely out of our lives!!
For those of you who don't know Khylie was born 6 weeks early, she spent 3 weeks in NICU. She was hooked to all kind of monitors. Some to feed her, some to make sure she kept breathing, some to actually give her oxygen. That was the most difficult 3 weeks of our lives!! Not knowing if something would go wrong or if she would ever learn to eat and breath at the same time. Then she developed sleep apnea which was so terrifying! All Benny and I wanted was the support from our families, we found it in my family. Of course Benny's wasn't too helpful. His dad visited her a few times. But what really killed me was knowing that his mom worked at the same hospital Khylie was in and couldn't be bothered to visit her. She only visited Khylie 3 times the entire time she was there and all three times we had to go ask her to come with us to visit. When I finally got the courage to confront her about it she tried to deny it at first, but when I said I had the nurses keep track of who went to see her she finally admitted it. Her excuse; "I couldn't go because Perfecto didn't want me to because only family was allowed in the NICU". What kind of GRANDMOTHER lets her boyfriend tell her she can't go see her grandchild, especially one that is in the NICU??? To make matters worse not even a week after Khylie was released her and Perfecto broke up. She also decided she didn't want to be around here so she moved to New Mexico! She stayed here several months and visited maybe once. When she moved back she said it was because she wanted a relationship with her ONLY GRANDCHILD. That hasn't happened. Khylie is still shy around her, actually that whole family.
Khylie's First Halloween...
I found this really cute ladybug costume online that I had planned on getting, but decided since Benny's mom sews I'd ask her if she wanted to make it for Khylie. She agreed but had doubts she'd be able to make it exactly like the one I liked. I just thought it would be nice for her to have some kind of part of it. We went to get the fabric, that night I was laying in bed when I got several texts from my brother-in-laws girlfriend at the time. She was telling me that Connie was complaining to her about having to make Khylie's costume. She claimed that Connie said she didn't really have the time to make it but her being a good mother and grandmother she would do it anyway. So I got pissed off and told Benny I did not want her making the costume. My dad ended up buying the one offline!
Khylie's First Christmas...
His mom and sister decided, without asking our opinion, that they were going to have Christmas at his sister's apartment. About two weeks before I called and asked his mom if we could possibly do Christmas at our place. At this point Khylie and probably seen them all maybe 8 times in 10 months. I figured it would be easier on Khylie if she were surrounded by her things and at a familiar place. His mom said "No, I already told Shelly she could have Christmas at her place". So I ask Shelly, thinking she might have some kind of compassion for her niece. Boy was I wrong! Her exact words "No! I already invited Alex's family. And Christmas isn't JUST about Khylie!" RIDICULOUS! That Christmas SHOULD have been all about Khylie. It was her first Christmas and she was only kid!!! But I sucked it up and went anyway.
Khylie's First Birthday...
About a month before Khylie's birthday she got sick. We used our last 20 dollars to take her to the doctor and didn't have the money to buy her medicine. My parents didn't get paid for a few days and Khylie needed that medicine that day! So I had Benny ask his mom if she could possibly buy her medicine. She agreed to and said she would come by and get the prescription the next day. She never showed up but called and said since the roads were bad (a really bad rain storm came through) she wouldn't be able to come out and that she didn't have the money to get the medicine but would get another medicine that would help. I told Benny to tell her to just forget it, I was not going to give my daughter something that her doctor did not prescribe her! The next day a friend of mine texted me to say she saw my inlaws at walmart. She said it was Connie, Shelly and Alex. When she asked them what they were doing Connie said she was buying Shelly some food. I was told the basket was pretty full! So after I told Benny he was really pissed and finally decided it was time for HIM to confront his mother. He told her that she needed to come and spend more time with her grand daughter. Her exact words "well I don't have the gas to come out there right now, but if you want to bring Khylie to me I'll be more than happy to watch her for yall". Ok lets get this straight...She didn't have the money to help us out by buying Khylie medicine but had the money to buy her daughter food. She didn't want to come out to our house because the roads were bad but wanted us to take our DAUGHTER out on those same exact roads??!! Needless to say after that we didn't talk to her for several months. What was strange was she went months without calling but once we told her we wanted nothing to do with her she wouldn't stop calling or texting! She was not invited to Khylie's 1st birthday party. And didn't even ask if she could come.
That is just the first year of Khylie's life. To this day she still neglects her, she didn't even show up for Christmas this year. Claimed she needed sleep. But she was able to take her son to get a hair cut and play in the snow with two of her sons, daughter, son-in-law and her sons girlfriend. There are pictures to prove it! It took her 2 months to even bring Khylie something for Christmas. None were wrapped. Which makes me wonder if she had just gone out and got stuff before coming over? What is sad is Connie isn't the only one that neglects Khylie and Benny! That whole family never comes around. We lived maybe 6 blocks from his dad for 1 1/2 years and he came to visit maybe 5 times. Its really sad when my parents treat Benny more like a son than his own parents do!!! I just wish they would wake up and realize what they are doing to him and what they will be doing to Khylie when she is old enough to notice.
Khylie's 3rd Birthday...
Benny's dad, sister, and one of his brothers only stayed maybe 15 minutes for Khylie's party. I could see his sister and brother leaving but his DAD? His mom did stay, didn't really speak to anyone. When she did she said stupid stuff like "next time we should send the kids home and have a big horse", Benny said she mentioned sending the kids home like three times! Ummm hello its a KIDS PARTY!! Plus this is MY house, you have no say in who stays or goes!! I was told by several people she had a disgusted look on her face while Khylie was opening her presents. Almost like she was mad. What in the world could she had been mad about? That Khylie is loved by so many people and got a lot of presents? Its ridiculous! I was also told she was giving me dirty looks while I was serving the cake. The only reason I can think of for her giving me dirty looks was because I served the kids cake before her. If she didn't want to be there she shouldn't have even came! And if she plans on doing the same next year she can just forget about coming!! Khylie's party would've been just as great without her!!
For those of you who don't know Khylie was born 6 weeks early, she spent 3 weeks in NICU. She was hooked to all kind of monitors. Some to feed her, some to make sure she kept breathing, some to actually give her oxygen. That was the most difficult 3 weeks of our lives!! Not knowing if something would go wrong or if she would ever learn to eat and breath at the same time. Then she developed sleep apnea which was so terrifying! All Benny and I wanted was the support from our families, we found it in my family. Of course Benny's wasn't too helpful. His dad visited her a few times. But what really killed me was knowing that his mom worked at the same hospital Khylie was in and couldn't be bothered to visit her. She only visited Khylie 3 times the entire time she was there and all three times we had to go ask her to come with us to visit. When I finally got the courage to confront her about it she tried to deny it at first, but when I said I had the nurses keep track of who went to see her she finally admitted it. Her excuse; "I couldn't go because Perfecto didn't want me to because only family was allowed in the NICU". What kind of GRANDMOTHER lets her boyfriend tell her she can't go see her grandchild, especially one that is in the NICU??? To make matters worse not even a week after Khylie was released her and Perfecto broke up. She also decided she didn't want to be around here so she moved to New Mexico! She stayed here several months and visited maybe once. When she moved back she said it was because she wanted a relationship with her ONLY GRANDCHILD. That hasn't happened. Khylie is still shy around her, actually that whole family.
Khylie's First Halloween...
I found this really cute ladybug costume online that I had planned on getting, but decided since Benny's mom sews I'd ask her if she wanted to make it for Khylie. She agreed but had doubts she'd be able to make it exactly like the one I liked. I just thought it would be nice for her to have some kind of part of it. We went to get the fabric, that night I was laying in bed when I got several texts from my brother-in-laws girlfriend at the time. She was telling me that Connie was complaining to her about having to make Khylie's costume. She claimed that Connie said she didn't really have the time to make it but her being a good mother and grandmother she would do it anyway. So I got pissed off and told Benny I did not want her making the costume. My dad ended up buying the one offline!
Khylie's First Christmas...
His mom and sister decided, without asking our opinion, that they were going to have Christmas at his sister's apartment. About two weeks before I called and asked his mom if we could possibly do Christmas at our place. At this point Khylie and probably seen them all maybe 8 times in 10 months. I figured it would be easier on Khylie if she were surrounded by her things and at a familiar place. His mom said "No, I already told Shelly she could have Christmas at her place". So I ask Shelly, thinking she might have some kind of compassion for her niece. Boy was I wrong! Her exact words "No! I already invited Alex's family. And Christmas isn't JUST about Khylie!" RIDICULOUS! That Christmas SHOULD have been all about Khylie. It was her first Christmas and she was only kid!!! But I sucked it up and went anyway.
Khylie's First Birthday...
About a month before Khylie's birthday she got sick. We used our last 20 dollars to take her to the doctor and didn't have the money to buy her medicine. My parents didn't get paid for a few days and Khylie needed that medicine that day! So I had Benny ask his mom if she could possibly buy her medicine. She agreed to and said she would come by and get the prescription the next day. She never showed up but called and said since the roads were bad (a really bad rain storm came through) she wouldn't be able to come out and that she didn't have the money to get the medicine but would get another medicine that would help. I told Benny to tell her to just forget it, I was not going to give my daughter something that her doctor did not prescribe her! The next day a friend of mine texted me to say she saw my inlaws at walmart. She said it was Connie, Shelly and Alex. When she asked them what they were doing Connie said she was buying Shelly some food. I was told the basket was pretty full! So after I told Benny he was really pissed and finally decided it was time for HIM to confront his mother. He told her that she needed to come and spend more time with her grand daughter. Her exact words "well I don't have the gas to come out there right now, but if you want to bring Khylie to me I'll be more than happy to watch her for yall". Ok lets get this straight...She didn't have the money to help us out by buying Khylie medicine but had the money to buy her daughter food. She didn't want to come out to our house because the roads were bad but wanted us to take our DAUGHTER out on those same exact roads??!! Needless to say after that we didn't talk to her for several months. What was strange was she went months without calling but once we told her we wanted nothing to do with her she wouldn't stop calling or texting! She was not invited to Khylie's 1st birthday party. And didn't even ask if she could come.
That is just the first year of Khylie's life. To this day she still neglects her, she didn't even show up for Christmas this year. Claimed she needed sleep. But she was able to take her son to get a hair cut and play in the snow with two of her sons, daughter, son-in-law and her sons girlfriend. There are pictures to prove it! It took her 2 months to even bring Khylie something for Christmas. None were wrapped. Which makes me wonder if she had just gone out and got stuff before coming over? What is sad is Connie isn't the only one that neglects Khylie and Benny! That whole family never comes around. We lived maybe 6 blocks from his dad for 1 1/2 years and he came to visit maybe 5 times. Its really sad when my parents treat Benny more like a son than his own parents do!!! I just wish they would wake up and realize what they are doing to him and what they will be doing to Khylie when she is old enough to notice.
Khylie's 3rd Birthday...
Benny's dad, sister, and one of his brothers only stayed maybe 15 minutes for Khylie's party. I could see his sister and brother leaving but his DAD? His mom did stay, didn't really speak to anyone. When she did she said stupid stuff like "next time we should send the kids home and have a big horse", Benny said she mentioned sending the kids home like three times! Ummm hello its a KIDS PARTY!! Plus this is MY house, you have no say in who stays or goes!! I was told by several people she had a disgusted look on her face while Khylie was opening her presents. Almost like she was mad. What in the world could she had been mad about? That Khylie is loved by so many people and got a lot of presents? Its ridiculous! I was also told she was giving me dirty looks while I was serving the cake. The only reason I can think of for her giving me dirty looks was because I served the kids cake before her. If she didn't want to be there she shouldn't have even came! And if she plans on doing the same next year she can just forget about coming!! Khylie's party would've been just as great without her!!
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